proposing love

it’s official!

So you’ve ‘popped the question’, and you’ve said “YES!” Both of you have agreed to some kind of ritual to confirm your commitment to each other. Whether or not you choose to certify your marriage, all couples in emotionally committed relationships rely on the importance of shared intimacy, loyalty, trust, and passion in their romantic relationships to ‘seal the deal’.

No doubt, your commitment to each other is secured even more by knowing how much you share in common. Having shared values and interests helps to build resilience and maintain the fun as your relationship grows.

what matters to you, me, and us?

However, the key to a mature relationship is understanding and accepting each other when our values and interests differ. What’s more important to me, may not be so important to you. Therefore, the challenge as we ‘grow up’ together is, how do we hold onto the ‘You’ and the ‘Me’ to negotiate the ‘Us’?

Pre-Marriage is a time to fashion the ‘Us’ and the ‘We’ position by revealing our different stances on important matters like “Where are we going to live…are we going to have children…how do we handle our finances…do we practice monogamy or non-monogamy?” The list goes on!