losing love

falling out of love takes time

It takes two to form an emotionally committed relationship and only one to end such a marriage. Losing love is not an easy process. It takes time to fall out of love, and sometimes a very long time experiencing inescapable feelings of indifference, distance, and disconnection. As after death, when your love is gone, you are alone. Yet unlike bereavement, the memories that stay, and come to mind so vividly, can be bitter when one partner has chosen to leave the other.

As you mourn every aspect of your life together, the most significant loss in separation and divorce is the relinquishing of those dreams you had of the perfect relationship and family.

post separation is a time for personal growth

However, when a relationship ends, separation and divorce can also be a time for personal growth and development. Post separation gives you an opportunity for increased competence in how you ‘do’ relationships, so that you can move on to develop a more gratifying intimate relationship in the future.

The opportunity to understand your strengths and weaknesses in relationship also buys you time to demythologise those ‘dreams’, to rebuild and to re-acquaint you with your self!